About me

“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.”
- Dr. Seuss

The short laundry list:
• Mum of two daughters, one of whom died as a newborn.
• Partner, sister, daughter, cousin.
• Writer, music lover, stress-head, recovering people-pleaser.
• Creative: I build websites, and freelance graphic design & printing is my business
• I am a student of energetic healing. Never an expert, always a student, I seek and then strive to always share what I discover.

Hi! My name is Kirrily. Welcome to this space.

If you want to email me, please click here - but please note that I do not, as a general rule, do give-aways or promotions or sponsored posts.


I never expected to be living as proof that you do still breathe after losing a child and you can still laugh. But you do and you can.

I also never wanted the title of “strong”. I didn’t expect to have my firstborn child bestow a seemingly impossible task on me – to live my life without her and make it count – and yet here I am. Doing all of these things. And still finding out more about myself and the lives of those around me.

In my “spare” time, I submit my memoir seemingly endlessly to publishers and agents – one day I might call my own bluff and actually self-publish instead.

Occasionally, I dabble in photography and art. I put my fingers to a piano and my heart gets pulled to a time when I used to play music to feed my soul.

I read to my daughter; she started school this year. I do dishes. I forget about clean wet washing to be hung out and have to re-wash it (I do that a lot, come to think of it….). I have a penchant for continually developing my spiritual side as well – since 2003, I have done so through energenetic healing/human behavioural studies, fast-tracked somewhat by the unique way Ellanor presented to me herself in 2002, long before her conception.

And I write. I am forever writing. Here on this blog, I write about it all. You’re most welcome to stay and read!

Lately, I have been wasting far too much time on www.drawception.com - try it for laughs but don’t blame me if you lose half of your night on there – and Flight Control on the ipad. But hey… a girl’s gotta have some weaknesses, right?

I prefer coffee over tea, mint choc chip over strawberry. Soy latté if you’re shouting. Or a vodka with lime if we’re under the yardarm, thanks.

My three most all-time favourite ever books are…

Peter Pan
Marley & Me (before it got turned into a movie and a sequel…)
Watership Down

I cry each and every time I come near any of them. Watership Down had me crying for days as a young teenager. Marley & Me I finished reading when in the latter stages of a precarious 10th pregnancy while I grieved for my ailing, ageing dog (who went on to live another 6 years but that’s not the point) and for weeks I couldn’t talk about the book without crying. So, yes… I am a sucker for animals. And small pirates, apparently (but really, it’s the description of Mrs Darling tidying up her children’s minds and singing to them until they fall asleep at night time that gets me).

I have a husband who I’ve been with forever  20 years, two daughters – Ellanor Ruby and the LGBB (Lolly Gobble Bliss Bomb, or Lolly for short) - and a string of miscarriages in my past. Okay, so it’s 11 to be exact. I wrote a memoir about all that, which you can learn more about here.

Now, enough about me (you will hear plenty more on that subject if you stick around here for long!)…

How about YOU:

If you have a story of loss or infertility (yours or an ancestor’s, perhaps) and you feel you would like to share it (especially if you are from an older generation) please email me to discuss guest posting here, or go to this page and fill in your details – you do not need to have an existing blog and you can even share your story anonymously if you wish.

Your stories need to be heard.


There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.
Maya Angelou

Believe it or not, this is the short version of who I am. The longer one (about us) may be found here -
please feel free to go and read it.


  1. So wonderfully written.Clear,straight to the point.A quick get to know the Inspirational You.Love all the great quotes of Maya Angelou and thanks to you and your amazing open and raw blog, the agony of the untold stories can be lessened here for so many.I write thankyou to you through teary eyes of gratitude.xx

    1. Hi Deby, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your comment. Blessings xx

  2. Hey sweets, I can’t see your email address anywhere to send you info on the blogger/biz mum mixer – can you email me at my address and I can send you deets x x

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